As a teenager I remember asking myself this question and freaking out over it: why am I me? It wasn’t just ‘why do I have this body and this set of circumstances’ – I could imagine being transplanted to a different body, family, home, set of friendships, native language, and still being me. It wasn’t even ‘why do I have this personality’ – I could … Continue reading Why am I me?
I came across this mural on the side of the Southbank Centre near Waterloo the other day: The Southbank Centre says this about Sam Durant’s artwork: The handwritten text originates from a placard used in the 1963 March on Washington, a landmark event of the American Civil Rights movement. Removed from its original context, the laconic phrase is open to interpretation. It might speak to … Continue reading What are YOU waiting for?
I’ve struggled with nail-biting for over 20 years. I don’t know when it began, but there’s a home video of me nibbling away at my sister’s baptism – I was five. I could never pin down exactly why I bit my nails. My mum theorised that it might be stress. Another potential explanation was boredom. All I knew was that if there was any white … Continue reading What nail-biting taught me about life
Happy 2nd birthday to my blog & thank you to the faithful readers of my over 100 posts! 😀 To celebrate, I’m rounding up my 10 most popular posts, and will share what’s next for the blog … Did I keep my promises? Last year I promised to … update my blog domain ✔️ –> inmywritemind.me –> no more ads! write about American travels ✔️ –> … Continue reading [2-year Blogiversary]
Series 7 of American law drama series Suits is currently airing on Netflix. I recommend watching it. (Power through the less interesting couple of middle series; the first few and last 2 are worth it.) Spoilers ahead! Why? The corporate buzz, the office politics, the loyalties, the plays for power, the deals cut, the secrets leveraged, the main characters’ indefatigable ‘There is no way we … Continue reading SUITS & empowerment
One point of agreement between myself and ‘mainstream’ feminism is that emotional labour is a real thing. From my daily interactions with friends and family, it’s very clear that there are people who take initiative to facilitate the smooth running of gatherings and shared meals, people who think about what their friends and other halves might need or want in the short-term and execute that … Continue reading Emotional labour in 7 contrived anecdotes
So you have an ambition. You really want to achieve it. You know you’d be great at it. All you need is … for someone to just find you, realise how good you are, pluck you from obscurity and helicopter you right into the middle of your dream, where you work happily ever … all you need to do is keep plugging away and someone … Continue reading Avoiding Disney Princess syndrome at work
There have been two periods in my life where I’ve suffered from severely low motivation. Both times, I have been faced with either indefinite or seemingly indefinitely long periods of free time, with very few commitments. Both times, I needed to use that free time to further a long-term goal. I like to think I’m quite driven and self-motivated, but what I found myself doing … Continue reading How to overcome low motivation
People I looked up to as a teenager included the following: friends who were actually nice to their siblings friends with better hair or dress sense friends who were openly loving and affectionate towards their families cousins with engagement rings full-time travel bloggers classmates who did more music practice people with jobs and independent lives rich people anyone who looked like they were excelling at … Continue reading Growing out of role models
lifezilla, n.: a person whose behaviour in planning the details of his/her life is regarded as obsessive, terrorizing, or intolerably demanding Brief thought for the day … In a previous post I wrote about being commitment-phobic and keeping your life options open. You never know when something or someone better might come round the corner! I think commitment-phobia is an illusory attempt at holding onto the … Continue reading Don’t be a lifezilla