Emotional labour in 7 contrived anecdotes

One point of agreement between myself and ‘mainstream’ feminism is that emotional labour is a real thing. From my daily interactions with friends and family, it’s very clear that there are people who take initiative to facilitate the smooth running of gatherings and shared meals, people who think about what their friends and other halves might need or want in the short-term and execute that … Continue reading Emotional labour in 7 contrived anecdotes

The Confidence Manifesto [BONUS]

If you still need convincing that confidence is super important, here is a little story. Imagine you need to buy a new wurtscriggle. A quick search reveals two companies that sell this product. You check out each of their websites in turn. The first homepage reads: The second homepage reads: The first company sounds unenthused; it doesn’t sound like they think they’re unique or worthwhile, … Continue reading The Confidence Manifesto [BONUS]

Performing monkeys 🐵 🙊

aspiration and objectification in Black Mirror, Old Masters and social media I hadn’t heard of art critic John Berger before news of his death broke a few days ago. Today I happened upon this interesting article about his critical legacy in the field of the artistic treatment of women. What hooked me in was the initial quotation: A woman is always accompanied, except when quite … Continue reading Performing monkeys 🐵 🙊

Social justice in Harry Potter

Under the hood of this fantasy series, this Christian allegory, this festival of fun in seven volumes, lies a certain concern for social justice. Besides the ‘strong female leads’ – sporty Ginny handy with a Bat-Bogey Hex, cleverest in her year Hermione, stay-at-home mother and serious destroyer of Dark Witches Mrs Weasley, etc etc – the dispelling of the stigma around blood-transmitted werewolf condition claimed … Continue reading Social justice in Harry Potter

Politics of oppression

If you’ve ever been told that you’ve internalised the patriarchy, that your feminism isn’t up to the mark because you don’t take specific account of ethnic minority women, that you can’t talk about abortion because you’re a man, that you should probably not even talk in a public place because as a cis white straight man your very words, dripping with the lard of privilege, … Continue reading Politics of oppression

Thoughts on D’Annunzio (hint: he’s really annoying)

I recently finished an irritating book called L’Innocente (The Victim/The Intruder in English) by Gabriele D’Annunzio. I wouldn’t recommend it to you, so I don’t feel bad telling you what happens, with no spoiler alert: A man (Tullio) is repeatedly unfaithful to his wife (Giuliana). Since she’s so lovely and forgiving of that fact, they almost reconcile, until he discovers she too was unfaithful and … Continue reading Thoughts on D’Annunzio (hint: he’s really annoying)

Still worthy of art

While super skinny may be the name of the catwalk game, we must remember that standards of beauty are as varied as a piece of string is long – or in other words, pretty meaningless. Remember the irrelevant imperfections the Plastics moaned about in Mean Girls? ‘My hairline is so weird!‘, ‘My pores are huge!‘, ‘My nail beds suck!‘ Whatever your grievance with your poor … Continue reading Still worthy of art

Powerful women and their fashion choices

What’s that you say? You’re going to write about powerful women, but instead of focussing on their achievements, you’re going to focus on their looks?! Surely this is sexism incarnate! While it’s true that more column inches than are warranted by the subject have been expended on the clothing choices (or as my friends and I used to say, the sartorial elections) of the female … Continue reading Powerful women and their fashion choices

The dual ethics of feminism

Consider the following controversial issues: Prostitution Page 3 Strip clubs Beyoncé videos Rihanna videos Other music videos Kim Kardashian’s naked selfies These topics all relate to women showing their sexual nature in the public sphere, and seem to engender (see what I did there) more heated debates than do other women’s issues. Consider some of the following for and against arguments that relate to these: … Continue reading The dual ethics of feminism