Growing out of role models

People I looked up to as a teenager included the following: friends who were actually nice to their siblings friends with better hair or dress sense friends who were openly loving and affectionate towards their families cousins with engagement rings full-time travel bloggers classmates who did more music practice people with jobs and independent lives rich people anyone who looked like they were excelling at … Continue reading Growing out of role models

What’s wrong with barefaced cheek?

The other day I came across this article about men wearing makeup. My initial reaction was … no likey 😦 But I wear makeup every day (except if I don’t have to leave the house)! I’ve even been known to post my nail art on Instagram!! Hear me out before you smack down the ‘hypocrite’ line … What’s the problem? Why do I seem to … Continue reading What’s wrong with barefaced cheek?

The Confidence Manifesto [BONUS]

If you still need convincing that confidence is super important, here is a little story. Imagine you need to buy a new wurtscriggle. A quick search reveals two companies that sell this product. You check out each of their websites in turn. The first homepage reads: The second homepage reads: The first company sounds unenthused; it doesn’t sound like they think they’re unique or worthwhile, … Continue reading The Confidence Manifesto [BONUS]

The Confidence Manifesto [Part 3]

Background: confidence is an invisible skill, but a large part of success in any domain. I haven’t always been particularly confident myself and didn’t quite realise how important it was until I saw its fruits in my own life. Learning to be confident is one of the most useful things I have done since leaving university and one of the best things that has happened … Continue reading The Confidence Manifesto [Part 3]

The Confidence Manifesto [Part 2]

Background: confidence is an invisible skill, but a large part of success in any domain. I haven’t always been particularly confident myself and didn’t quite realise how important it was until I saw its fruits in my own life. Learning to be confident is one of the most useful things I have done since leaving university and one of the best things that has happened … Continue reading The Confidence Manifesto [Part 2]

The Confidence Manifesto [Part 1]

Today I want to talk about confidence! Confidence is a large part of success in any domain, and success in the right domain is part of fulfilling every person’s potential – so it’s important. It’s not something careers advisors say much about, but it’s crucial for a successful career; it’s not something employers ask for, […]

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Eyeing me, eyeing you

Riddle this: What’s super awkward if it happens on a tube, exciting if it’s with a hot guy in a bar, a necessary prerequisite to ordering food in a restaurant? The dreaded eye contact! Eye contact is undoubtedly very powerful – and not just if you’re Sauron. It can be delightful if shared with a loved one, cementing intimacy and provoking sympathy. In Arthur Aron’s … Continue reading Eyeing me, eyeing you

How to actually make great life choices

I once took a personality test that marked me as ‘extremely passive’. I huffed and puffed about it and then went about my day. Years later, I can confirm that this was true at the time. Do you feel stuck, trapped, stagnant, bored, or a combination of the above? Here is some actual millennial wisdom about breaking free, starting over, shaking things up, derived from … Continue reading How to actually make great life choices

Self-help => self-loathing

Two thousand and a few hundred years ago, the Psalmist wrote: Lift thine eyes, oh lift thine eyes to the mountains, whence cometh help (Rendered rather nicely by Mendelssohn:) In some present-day parts of the world, we look instead to politicians, to whom it’s thought that God has delegated his salvific powers: But in most circles, we no longer lift our eyes to God or … Continue reading Self-help => self-loathing

Spiralizing out of control

Back in the day, all it took to be a healthy human being was a basic diet of tatties, veg and the occasional portion of tinned spam, a bit of walking (fetching the groceries) and a bit of housework (beating rugs, scrubbing period stains out of linen by hand). Nowadays we’re a little more fussy, and a common or garden health regime typically includes: Gadgets: … Continue reading Spiralizing out of control